Fantasy. Fetish. These are two things that many people keep a secret. How do you talk with your partner about what you really want? Many people fear the outcome of such discussions. People worry their partner will think they are strange or a “freak” (most of the time they are wrong!!).

A fantasy is defined as “an imagined or conjured up sequence fulfilling a psychological need; daydream.” (dictionary.com) Sexually speaking, a fantasy can be a simple desire or a long drawn out scenario. Fantasy is generally considered more psychological than a fetish, which usually involves a physical object, or the aid of one. A fantasy can more so be a situation that the fantasizer wants to happen to them, and fantasy can be anything from voyeurism to gang bangs and everything in between. If you can think of it, there is someone who is into it, and many people who have already acted on it!

A fetish is “any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.” (dictionary.com) This is frequently something that a person NEEDS in order to feel sexually fulfilled. If it’s not present during sexual activity, it is highly likely the person with a fetish is thinking about it, and imagining that it is part of what is going on. A fetish can be anything - again, if you can think of it, there is someone who is into it. Balloons, feet, bondage, hair and stuffed animals are all a Freudian party waiting to happen.

Discussion

Join us at Shag on Saturday 3/13 from 7-9 pm for a SHAG discussion forum on communicating fetish and fantasy with your partner, moderated by yours truly! Whether you are interested in learning more, have a great story to share or a strong opinion, come hang out and discuss! And feel free to BYOB!

-- Dixon